How to offer help

to the elderly people in your family during the coronavirus pandemic

Why do the elderly need help? They are an at-risk group.

Elderly citizens are among those who have the highest risk of having a severe case of COVID-19. Immune-compromised people, people with chronic cardiovascular disease, diabetes, and asthma are also among those most endangered by a coronavirus. Some elderly people may belong to more at-risk groups at the same time.


It is, therefore, important for the elderly to abide by all the recommendations and measures and, if possible, not to leave their homes. At the same time, however, they, of course, need things like food and medications. The fact that they must stay at home is also difficult for their mental health.

How to help the elderly in your family?

Many of us have elderly family members whom we can offer help during this difficult time. For example, we can bring them their shopping or pick up their medicine and leave it by the door. If you live too far away or you are chronically ill yourself, you can connect the elderly person with someone who offers help in their place of residence. You can also help them by talking to them – for example on the phone or via email.


How to offer your help?

Be the one to offer help on your own initiative

It is important for the mental well-being of the elderly to be as self-sufficient as possible, even in a really old age. Restriction of their independence can be unpleasant and dangerous for them. That’s why it can be hard for them to ask for help.

Try to make it easier for them by offering your help.

Choose your words carefully – don’t patronize and don’t forbid them to do things

Beware of forbidding and patronizing – rather, make offers to them. You may think that the elderly person is behaving irresponsibly; however, you will not persuade them by patronizing them or speaking to them as if they were children. Quite the contrary – it is humiliating for them, they lose their trust in you and may start to oppose you.

Show interest in the elderly person’s opinion → don’t assume that you know what they need

Show them that you were happy to help

Mention that you are glad that the elderly person let you help them. You will clearly show them your interest and prevent them from being afraid that they are bothering you. You pick up their medicine, bringing their shopping or calling them regularly will not only help the elderly person but also yourself – you will be sure that they have everything they need and aren’t needlessly exposing themselves to danger. Don’t be afraid to admit this.


Offer them that they can get in touch with you

Try to remind the elderly person that they can call you or write to you whenever they want.

You can also mention free phone lines that the elderly person can call in case they are afraid or need information.

Create a routine

Try to create a routine and don’t settle for one-time help. You can, for example, offer to the elderly person that you will call them every day at the same time, or you will bring their shopping regularly. Don’t forget to ask them what they feel comfortable with. The situation may occur where more family members have offered their help or where the elderly person prefers to have a phone conversation with you every other day.

Don’t get discouraged

The elderly person may not be as excited by your offer as you expected. Be prepared for the possibility that they may refuse it. That doesn’t mean that you have to give up trying.

Authors: Jana Fikrlová, Tereza Kašková under the leadership of Zuzana Masopustová